How to make hard choices?

How do you make hard choices? How do you decide which option to go for? 

When presented with hard choices, I used to get a paper, fold it in the middle and write down lists of pros & cons on each side. 

I am not sure about you, but for me, the really difficult choices are the ones that ironically can’t be solved with pen & paper. 

I have stood at crossroads many times. In career and in love. 

Some choices are hard because they are good in their own ways, one not better than the other, objectively. 

At moments like this, I learned that it’s important that I stop actively weighing the pros & cons because there isn’t one right answer. If there is one obvious right answer, I would not be in a dilemma. 

At moments like these, I learned that it's important for me to step back, lean inwards, and listen to what matters most. 

When I didn’t listen to what matters most, fear & insecurity step in to help me decide what’s best. 

For a while, I would feel at peace because I made a decision. 

However, if the decision was made out of fear & insecurity, somehow, someday, the nagging voice of whether this is the right thing to do will creep up. 

So, dive in and learn about what matters to you, truly. If you are willing to listen and be honest to yourself, you will know what matters to you. 

Making hard choices boils down to who you decide to be. It boils down to what values you uphold.

It is not always the easiest decision yet it will be rewarding if you make decisions that are aligned with your heart. 

When you are being presented with hard choices, you may ask yourself these questions: 

• Am I drawn toward making this decision out of fear & insecurity?

• If I listen to what matters most to me, what will I choose?

• In 5 years' time, what will I regret not doing?

Even if you're not faced with making a difficult decision now, you may reflect upon the above questions too. Feel free to share this with a friend who may be facing a dilemma in making hard choices. 

PS: If you want to learn more about how you can make heart-centered decisions instead of fear-based decisions, I am here to support you.