Is it really okay to go slow?
“Am I really unwell enough to not work?”
This question popped up in my mind while I was lying down on my couch, with me staring blankly at the ceiling.
I was feeling nausea, intense bloating, headache and fatigue from the first week of my fertility treatment.
Given I wasn’t able to do much, I told myself –
Fine, for the next 3 weeks while I am under treatment, I shall do nothing and be useless.
Those exact words came to me.
Did you see what’s wrong there?
Wow, I just called myself useless for resting and recovering.
How harsh is that?
If I wasn’t mindful, this narrative would live in me and make me feel less valuable.
My worth was still very much attached to being productive and achieving.
I then took a moment to breathe and really connect with my body.
I offered these words within.
“I give myself permission to rest and nurture my body.
Take your time, I am here with you”
Life is not linear. Life is hard sometimes.
Life has different priorities that need to be taken care of right now.
My body is the priority for now.
Was I calm and at peace all the time?
Definitely not. I have moments where I feel frustrated and cried because I just didn’t feel like myself.
I was scared of slowing down. I was scared of feeling so weak.
At the same time, I felt compassion for the discomfort I was going through.
I thought of all the other women who are going through discomfort in their own way and felt a sense of respect and awe for them too.
It was an ebb and flow of different emotions.
As my energy was so limited, I appreciated every ounce of my energy and used them with care.
I was much more present with myself and those around me.
In those weeks, I used minimal social media and that helped me feel more at peace with my pace.
I felt less rushed.
The phrase that I repeatedly invite with gentleness is “It’s okay to go slow and take your time”
I am reminding you too –
that it’s okay to go slow at times.
Stop comparing with others. Everyone is different.
If you are physically, mentally, or emotionally going through a tough time, be gentle with yourself.
There will be different seasons in your life.
There will be seasons to gloriously speed up and seasons to go slow.
Stop buying into the idea that continuous exponential growth and an accelerated career path is the key to a fulfilling and joyful life.
Energy rises and falls. Seasons change.
Be aware of your season and choicefully craft your priorities.
What’s your season?
Is it an acceleration season?
Is it a slowing down season?
Is it a season to just BE?
Is it a season of transition?
Honor your season and have a theme for yourself.
I am feeling much better today and for this coming month, my theme is nurturing.
What’s your theme for this month?
How are your actions going to support this theme?
PS: Apply for a coaching discovery session here because you want to thrive with more peace and calm within. Let me support you in doing that.
Love,
TJ
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