Are you a pessimist or optimist?
Are you a worst-case scenario planner or a hopeful optimist?
I grew up being prudent – always planning in advance and often, anticipating roadblocks along the way.
It helps to “manage expectations” and “minimize disappointment”.
However, this time it’s taking a toll on me.
“What if things don’t work out? What needs to happen then?”
My mind feels stuck. My chest is tight.
I look at the pile of clothes unfolded - even the simplest task feels like pushing a huge rock up the mountain.
I know, I am in a darker place than where my mood usually hangs out.
I feel frustrated, anxious, and sad.
All the problems seem to magnify in my mind as the thoughts keep unraveling.
My mind was honing in on all the areas that could possibly go wrong and that’s all I can see.
No wonder I felt miserable.
If there’s a canvas, it will be grey. No signs of colors.
My husband held my hand tenderly – “Hey, what if it works out? What if it will work out beautifully?”
I instinctively resisted at first. How can he be so naïve?
Yet, I know deep down that it was an important question for me to consider. He was being fair.
There will always be the possibility that things may or may not work out. I am only focusing on the part that will NOT work out. I should at least allow myself to think – what if it works out?
It is as though someone painted a stroke of pale yellow on my grey canvass. There’s a tiny light.
When I allow myself to see that things can go well and can be better, the canvass starts to fill with more vibrant colors, bit by bit.
There’s more hope, positive energy, and even a tinge of fun.
If you are also someone that always projects what might go wrong, I see you.
I know, planning for the worst often feels safer than aiming for the best-case scenario.
At least, you won’t be disappointed. If any of the worst-case scenarios happen, you shall be ready to tackle them.
However, this process is mentally exhausting and emotionally draining. You would often feel tense and at times, already feeling defeated.
When you project the worst all the time, your body goes into survival mode which inhibits creative thinking and flow.
So, the next time you catch yourself going into a downward spiral focusing on everything that could go wrong – ask yourself
“What if it works out beautifully?”
Give yourself permission to give the other side of the coin a chance too.
Pessimist or Optimist, we can all use a bit of balance.
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