TJ’s Journal
A place where I share about my stories, lessons and tools.
Thinking your way out of overwhelm doesn’t work. Try these instead.
In overwhelming times, my nervous system (body) takes over. So, to move forward, the best way is not to think harder or act on it first. The priority is to soothe the nervous system.
Should you quit or keep holding on?
All along, quitting signifies failure to me and with it, there’s shame. I never gave myself permission to quit things that I no longer like and I would judge myself. However, to what extent do we hold on to things that no longer serve us?
How do you celebrate success?
I am often wary about celebrating success and allowing myself FEEL successful, being afraid that something might go wrong if I become too happy or "full of myself".
Are you a pessimist or optimist?
Planning for the worst often feels safer than aiming for the best-case scenario, especially for things that truly matter. If something goes wrong, at least you are prepared and feel less disappointed, right?
Lessons I learned when I felt like I failed
If you feel that you have failed in some way or the other, know that you are not alone. You are seen.
The downside of being super productive
Whenever there’s a window for a break, I shall make “full use” of it. Being productive is my jam. Yet, there’s a price to pay.
Are you always comparing yourself with others?
When I see other progress, instinctively I feel that I am falling behind. I instantly felt the need to do more, be more.
Do you need to chase happiness?
“Happiness is something that comes. You don’t have to chase it” Do you agree with this statement? Personally, I don’t think that it is the whole truth.
A letter to the strong, driven & heart-centered woman who feels unfulfilled
I know that you haven’t been feeling very happy. It seems like you have it all on the outside but you are feeling a nagging unease within.
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